Trying to be nicer to myself

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Today is the last day of my 32nd year on the plan­et. As someone with a mid-Janu­ary birth­day, I partic­u­larly hate how Janu­ary is assigned to be the hate-your­self-and-vow-to-change-everything-about-your­self-in-a-punit­ive-way month. Rather than futile and harm­ful diet and gym plans, I’m trying to be nicer to myself and less viciously self-crit­ic­al about my appear­ance.

It’s hard though when you live in a soci­ety that actively wants you to hate your appear­ance. As a woman you constantly receive the message that the only thing that matters about you is your appear­ance, and it isn’t good enough, and will never be good enough. I try my best to avoid harm­ful media, wheth­er it be tradi­tion­al or online, but it’s a constant onslaught, and you’d have to be a hermit in a cave to avoid it completely.

I was going to write a lot more in-depth about the topic and was draft­ing and think­ing about things all after­noon, but it was just exhaust­ing and made me feel really sad, and I ended up delet­ing it all, espe­cially as it was stir­ring up memor­ies of some horrible, horrible things men have said to me over the years (such as “you are so horribly over­weight, I’m embar­rassed to be seen with you in the street” when I was the same weight I am now).

So yeah, I guess all I’ll say is be nice to others, and try to be nicer to your­self, despite the onslaught of messages telling you not to be.

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